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Emulating Him
Part I. Beautifying Him
Miraculous Salvation
When our forefathers stood at the edge of the Yam Suf, looking over their backs at the enemy closing in on them, they were filled with terror. Because it wasnātĀ stamĀ an enemy ā the Mitzrim were boiling with anger. They had been laid very low because of us; they had just suffered tenĀ makkosĀ one after the other and then watched helplessly as we made a triumphant escape, taking along with us all of the wealth of Mitzrayim.
And so the Mitzrim were intent now, not only on regaining their property but on taking revenge. They were armed to the teeth and there was no place for the Am Yisroel to flee ā in front of them was the impenetrable sea and behind them was the vengeful army of Pharaoh with āsix hundred chosen war-chariots and all the chariots of Egyptā (14:7), under the leadership of the best generals (15:4). And so ×Ö·×Ö“Ö¼××ØÖ°××Ö¼ ×Ö°×Ö¹× āĀ they became very much afraidĀ (14:10).
Everybody knows what happened next ā the Am Yisroel cried out and theĀ Yad ChazakahĀ of Hashem split the Yam Suf in two and they passed through to safety. As their enemies pursued them into the sea, the waters came crashing down and drowned them. ×Öø×ØÖ°××Ö¼ ×Ö“×ְצ×Ö¹×Ö¹×Ŗ ×Ö°Ö¼××Ö¹ ×Öø×Ö¶×,Ā the enemy sank like stones into the depths of the sea and they were utterly destroyed (15:5).
A Resolution
Now, when our forefathers stood at the other side of the Yam Suf and witnessed this unequaled spectacle, a tremendous excitement seized them. They were electrified by what took place, they were exhilarated by the tremendous experience of being snatched from the jaws of death by the Hand of Hashem. And in their gratitude they stood up together and sangĀ shirahĀ to Hashem.
That itself was a tremendous achievement, no question about it, to sing to Hashem for what He does for you, thatās already a great perfection of character.
And yet we understand that there must have been something that the Am Yisroel undertook that day. When something big happens, when a great salvation occurs, people makeĀ nedarimĀ and they promise to try to repay Hakodosh Boruch Hu for the great benefit that He bestowed upon them. Like it states in Tehillim (116:13-14), when ×Ö¼×Ö¹×” ×ְש××Ö¼×¢×Ö¹×Ŗ ×ֶשÖøÖ¼××, when you lift up the cup of salvation, then × Ö°×Öø×ØÖ·× ×Ö·×ַשֵּ×× ×ֲשַ××ÖµÖ¼×,Ā you have to pay off your vows to Hashem.
And so, it pays to ask, whatĀ nederĀ did the Am Yisroel take upon themselves as they stood there on the edge of the Yam Suf?
The Eternal Oath
Now, when we study theĀ shirahĀ they sang to Hashem on that day,Ā we see that there are many ideas there, many teachings and lessons that can be gathered therefrom; but in the wholeĀ shiras hayamĀ we find only one obligation that they took upon themselves in return for this greatĀ yeshua, only one promise that they made collectively.
At that time they took upon themselves an oath, and they swore to Hashem as follows: ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ā āThis is my Hashem,ā they said, ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ ā āand I am going to beautify Him.āĀ NavehĀ means beautiful andĀ vāanveihu,Ā means āI will make Him beautiful.ā
And so the Am Yisroel stood at the seashore and said, āWeāre so thankful to You Hashem that weāre making now an eternal promise to You. From here on in, we will aggrandize You; we will glorify You all our lives.ā
A Historical Mission
Thatās what the Jewish nation chose as its function on the day they were saved from drowning in the sea ā they dedicated their lives and the lives of their children forever and ever to the one great task, the one great function of ×Ö·Ö¼×Ö°Ö¼××Ö¼ ×Ö·×ַשֵ×× ×Ö“×ŖÖ“Ö¼×Ā āĀ āLetāsmake Hashem great in the worldā. And if thatās the one thing they chose, you must say itās a pretty big deal.
Now, the plain meaning of course is that āWeāre going to spend the rest of our history talking about the greatness of Hakodosh Boruch Huā. And so you know now one of our most important jobs in this world ā we have to praise Hashem. We should always think and always talk about Hakodosh Boruch Hu to ourselves and to everybody else. Thatās what the promise was: ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼!
Thousand Nations
AsJews weāre going to let the world know how great our Hashem is! ×Ö·×Ö°××Ö¼ ×Ö¶×Ŗ ×ַשֵּ×× ×ÖøÖ¼× ×Ö¼×Ö¹×Ö“×Ā āĀ we speak to the world and tell them; we are expected to go out and tell it to all the nations. We say it every day: ××Ö¹××Ö¼ ×Ö·×ַשֵּ×× ×§Ö“×ØÖ°××Ö¼ ×ּ֓שְ×××Ö¹ ××Ö¹×Ö“××¢×Ö¼ ×Öø×¢Ö·×Ö“Ö¼×× ×¢Ö²×Ö“×××Ö¹×ŖÖø××.Ā HoduĀ means, elevate.Ā Hodu laāHashemĀ means to make Him great. āCall out, proclaim in His name; speak in the Name of Hashem and make known among the people His deeds.ā
And our forefathers were proud of their mission, and they fulfilled it. Thatās why in the ancient times we spoke toĀ goyim. Not because we wanted to make themĀ geirim.Ā Thereās noĀ mitzvahĀ to convertĀ goyimĀ unless they come asking for it, but there certainly is aĀ mitzvahĀ to let the world know the truth. And so thatās what they did in the days of old. And there were results ā there were remarkable results.
When we see that Shlomo Hamelech had 1000 wives ā princesses from all over the Near East ā you have to understand it was a demonstration, a recognition by all the kings that Shlomoās words were having an effect on them. And they were happy to have their daughters marry him even though they were only one out of 1000 wives. This was because Shlomo was spreading the word. He was fulfilling the promise made at the Yam Suf of ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼.
The Emperor and The Empress
Much later too ā in the times of theĀ churban Bayis SheiniĀ you must know that the practices ofĀ yahadus, of Judaism, were widespread among the nations. Itās remarkable how many people among the gentiles were sympathetic to many JewishĀ mitzvosĀ and kept them. Poppaea, the wife of Nero the emperor, was a veryĀ frumĀ woman. She kept Judaism. She couldnāt become aĀ giyoresĀ because it was danger. Sheād lose her life in Rome, but itās openly known that Poppaea, the Emperorās wife, kept Judaism.
And later when Nero disappeared from sight, he also joined the Am Yisroel. TheĀ goyimĀ say he was assassinated but I told you once that I saw in the Encyclopedia Britannica, itās stated there that although Nero was assassinated but still after his death there were persistent reports that he was seen in different parts of Italy. And ourĀ chachomimĀ tell us the inside story. Our sages tell us (Gittin 56a) that he ran away and he became aĀ ger. Of course, he did it on the sly ā had they known he was alive, they would have looked for him and assassinated him. The Romans wouldnāt stand for that.
Ignoring the Poet
We know also that all over the Near East very many practicedĀ yahadusĀ without becomingĀ geirim.Ā In one of the books that Virgil wrote ā Virgil was an ancient writer, a famous poet ā and he writes there that he was talking to an important Roman that he wanted to speak with and the Roman said, āNot today. Itās the 33rdĀ Sabbath.ā
Now, thereās only one Sabbath, the Jewish Sabbath. This Roman aristocrat is telling Virgil he wonāt talk business today because itās Shabbos.
Now theĀ āmeforshimāĀ on Virgil try to explain what it means āthe 33rdĀ Sabbath.ā Some say it means Yom Kippur, but whatever it is, itās remarkable. A prominent Roman said, āI cannot see you today. Itās the Sabbath.ā
Heroes of Adiabene
Jewish businessmen when they came to Chadayav spoke about Hashem. Chadayav was a Near Eastern country; it was called Adiabene. Jews travelled there for business but they always kept in mind the business of ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼.Ā We know that they spoke to the king and they spoke to the queen, and they madeĀ geirimĀ out of them.
Izates, the king of Chadayav became aĀ ger;Ā he forsook the religion of his own countrymen. And Helena, his queen, became aĀ giyores, a veryĀ frumĀ giyores.Ā Our sages tell us (Nazir 19b) that she undertook to be aĀ nazirĀ for seven years. Seven years! And for seven years she kept herĀ nezirus!
Then she came to Yerushalayim to bring herĀ korbanosĀ and theĀ chachomimĀ told her that aĀ nazirĀ cannot be inĀ chuz laāaretz.Ā Chuz laāaretzĀ is like a cemetery,Ā metame betumas meis. The sages told her that she has to stay in Yerushalayim and start all over again.Ā And thatās what she did!
Making Noise in Kuzar
In the times of the early Middle Ages, there was a country called Kuzar. The Kuzarim were a warlike nation, a Tartar people in Asiatic Europe, and Jewish businessmen traveling through the land of the Kuzarim spoke to the king and he became aĀ ger.Ā A remarkable story. A well-known fact. TheĀ melechĀ of the Kuzarimwas aĀ ger.
Now, such a thing ā hundreds of years of gentiles, prominent gentiles, seeking out Hashem ā could only be because our forefathers didnāt keep quiet. TheyĀ couldnātĀ keep quiet because they had made a promise, āWeāre going to aggrandize You; weāll speak about Your greatness wherever we go.ā
And so wherever they went they carried aloft with pride the banner ofĀ yahadus.Ā They spoke about Hashemās greatness and made Him beautiful in the eyes of everyone.
Keep Talking
Of course, today we must limit ourselves; in those days the nations were the only ones who needed to hear it but today there are plenty of Jews who are deaf and dumb and so we canāt afford to waste our time going to Africa or to Norway. We have to talk to the Jews right here in Flatbush ā in Eretz Yisroel too a lot of Jews need to be spoken to.
And the truth is that before you speak to the Jews here in Flatbush, you have to speak to the one Jew thatās most important to you ā and thatās yourself. You should always be reminding yourself about Hashemās greatness.
Thatās why weĀ davenĀ so much. In my firstĀ shulĀ we had a gentile neighbor, an old man, right next door. One afternoon, we were walking into theĀ shulĀ toĀ daven mincha, I heard him say to his daughter, āWhat is it with these Jews?! All day, back and forth, back and forth, to the synagogue. Donāt they ever finish praying?ā
The answer is, no, we never finish praying. When we pray, weāre talking to ourselves. Weāre busy praising Hashem ā so that we can hear it!
Donāt āCatch Borchuā
Thatās whyĀ pesukei dezimraĀ is so important ā youāre talking to yourself! You know, sometimes a yeshiva boy comes toĀ daveningĀ late in the morning, just beforeĀ borchu,Ā and he feels happy; heās gettingĀ borchuĀ in. He feels like he accomplished something today.
Oh no! Youāre missingĀ pesukei dezimra!Ā All theĀ halelukos!Ā Youāre missing out on the great function of ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ ā āAnd I will beautify You.ā Itās not only a national obligation; itās an oath that devolves on every individual. āI will beautify Him by speaking about His greatness,ā ā thatās the plain meaning and thatās the job of every single Jew; every man and woman, every boy and girl has to be busy fulfilling the oath we took on that great day of praising Hashem as much as possible.
Thatās the importance ofĀ pesukei dezimra.Ā You should be on time ā in some shuls youāll have to come early ā but no matter; if you want to fulfill the oath that we made on that day you should be early. And say every word withĀ geshmak;Ā enjoy the honey of every word of praising Hashem. Because thatās our function. Thatās what we promised at Kriyas Yam Suf: ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ ā āIām going to beautify Him!ā
Part II. Beautifying Ourselves
The Beauty Surrounds Us
Now, there are many ways that we fulfill this promise, thereās not merely one way, and all of them are true. On theĀ possukĀ ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ our sages tell us: ×Ö“×ŖÖ°× Öø×Ö¶× ×ְפÖø× Öø×× ×Ö°Ö¼×֓צְ××Ö¹×Ŗ,Ā make HisĀ mitzvosĀ beautiful. It means that whatever belongs to Hashem and His Torah weāre going to go out of our way to make it as beautiful as possible.
All theĀ mitzvosĀ are to us beautiful. We make sure to see all beauty in Torah things. We love all the methods of practicing Judaism. Everything connected with our nation, of course it means the Torah of our nation and the Torah practices, everything connected with the service of Hashem is beautiful.
Thatās why to us, the most precious object is aĀ mezuzahĀ ā more than the most expensive jewelry.Ā Tefillin,Ā tzitzis, thatās the glory of the Jewish nation. We take pride in demonstrating and displaying all these signs that Hashem gave us that weāre His people.
Be Admired
Of course, living among gentiles, many Jews lose that viewpoint. Even theĀ frummeĀ become jaundiced against Jewish attitudes and habits.
And therefore itās important at all times to remember, to recollect this vow that we made there that everything thatās Jewish is beautiful!Of course, if itās not Hashemās, then itās not Jewish. It can be Hebrew. It can be in the Land of Israel. If itās not Hashemās, if itās not Torah, itās not beautiful. But whatever belongs to Hakodosh Boruch Hu, HisĀ mitzvos, and His Torah and His ways are beautiful.
And we go out of our way to make them beautiful in order to make Him beautiful, to aggrandize Him. Because we say that if He commanded it, thatās what matters most. And so we try to buy more beautifulĀ mezuzahs. We try to beautify the Shabbos by setting a beautiful table. We try to beautify theĀ mitzvosĀ ofĀ tefillin, ofĀ lulav, ofĀ sukkah. All theĀ mitzvosĀ we try to beautify in honor of Hashem.Ā Lulav naeh,Ā when Sukkos comes, so you acquire a beautifulĀ lulav. Tzitzis naeh,Ā yourĀ tzitzisĀ should be beautiful.
So if youāre buying anĀ esrogĀ not only spend money for a kosher one but give a little extra for a beautiful one and if youāre able to put it in a handsome container so as you march to the synagogue through the streets people should admire that beautiful container and they see that you really love theĀ mitzvos, which means you love Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Youāre trying to aggrandize Him, to glorify Him.
I and He
Whatever you use for aĀ mitzvahĀ to serve Hakadosh Baruch Hu, it should be beautiful. Thatās certainly a good idea. Certainly thatās a way of glorifying Him. Itās true and itās included in this vow that our fathers made.
But weāre going to see now a different explanation of the oath that we took to glorify the Name of Hashem ā weāre going to hear from Abba Shaul who was an expert in explaining the words of the Torah. And in Mesichta Shabbos (133b) he comes along and gives a twist to these words.
××× ×©××× ××××ØĀ ā Abba Shaul says, what doesĀ veanveihuĀ mean? So he makes a play on words and he says ×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ can be read like this: ×Ö²× Ö“× ×Ö°××Ö¼×ā āI and He.ā It means, āI am going to be like Him.ā Itās a play on words.Ā Anveihu,Ā I will beautify Him, means āIām going to be like Hashem.ā
A New Perspective on Drush
Now letās explain that. Because most people, when they learn this Gemara they take it to mean that itās not the realĀ pshat. It seems like theĀ pshatĀ says one thing, that you have to glorify Hashem and along comes theĀ drashĀ and saysĀ ani vehu,Ā resemble Him.
Weāre going away from theĀ pshatĀ of āIāll beautify Him; Iāll glorify Him,ā and now weāre saying something else ā āIāll emulate Him; Iāll follow in His ways and adopt His characteristics.ā
We understand thatĀ vāanveihuĀ really means āI will make Him beautifulā only that Abba Shaul is going away from the plain meaning of āIāll glorify Himā and heās putting an entirely different meaning into the words.
But we must know a general principle about the words ofĀ chazal,Ā that in most cases theirĀ drashĀ is actually theĀ omek hapshat,Ā itās the profoundĀ pshat. If you analyze the plain meaning more deeply, youāll see that it includes what theĀ chachomimĀ tell us. Abba Shaul is not forsaking the realĀ pshat, heās not contradicting the first meaning; heās giving an insight, a more delicate insight, into the original meaning.
Shirley, Gary and Barry
And so weāll explain the principle as follows. Itās a fact of human nature that when you look up to somebody, when you admire somebody, you tend to imitate that person. Donāt we see in everyday society that the poor try to ape the rich? They do whatever they can to resemble the ones they admire.
Thatās why fifty years ago all Jewish girls in America were named Shirley. At that time there was an actress called Shirley ā I donāt want to say her last name; itās too much honor for her ā and so, all over the country women came home from the theater and told their husbands that when they have their baby girl theyāre going to take to themselves the great honor of giving their daughter the name of that actress. You walked on the street and all you heard was Shirley, Shirley, Shirley. Everybody was a Shirley.
There was an actor named Gary so a whole generation of Jewish boys became Gary. Then came an actor named Barry, and a whole generation of Jewish boys became Barry.
Now,Ā lehavdil,Ā people who arenāt so dumb, if youāre not a dumb American, so you emulate better people. But thatās the nature of Man; heāll imitate what he admires.
Lubavitcher āSpodikās
You know all the Lubavitchers wear their brim turned down. Why? Because the Rebbe has a brim turned down.Their rebbe wears a hat with the brim down in front so all theĀ chassidimĀ have the same fashion.
Not only Lubavitch. All chassidim try to look like their rebbe; everywhere. Thatās why when the movement ofĀ chassidusĀ began, all theĀ chassidimĀ when they dressed up for Shabbos, they looked like their rebbes. It wasnāt merely a matter of pretending to be what they werenāt. They looked up to the rebbe. Itās a compliment to their rebbe. If you love your rebbe, you want to look like him.
Thatās one of the great things you find by theĀ chassidim. EveryĀ chossidĀ tries to look like aĀ talmid chachamĀ and aĀ rebbe. Why? Because thatās his ideal. He looks up to them.
Rebbe Becomes a Trucker
Here is a man, a truck driver. I saw it yesterday ā heās driving a big Mehadrin truck and he comes out and he looks like aĀ chassidisheĀ rebbe. You see that all the time! Whatās that about? A rebbe driving a truck?! Itās not a rebbe who is a truck driver. Itās a truck driver whoās trying to be a rebbe because thatās his ideal, thatās who he looks up to.
And thatās the biggest compliment you can give someone. If youāll find somebody who is emulating you; heās dressing like you and adopting your mannerisms, you must realize that thatās a very big compliment. The fact that someone considers your ways worthy of imitation is a demonstration that he admires you. In fact, itās the biggest compliment you can give someone. When people emulate you, itās because they admire you.
Nation of Copycats
And so, along comes Abba Shaul and he tells us, āYou want to aggrandize Hashem? You want to fulfill your promise ofĀ vāanveihu,Ā of making Him beautiful and great? The best way isĀ ani vāHu!Ā I and Him! Iām going to be like Him.
That, says Abba Shaul, is the plainĀ pshatĀ ofĀ veanveihu.Ā It still means āIām going to beautify Him.ā ButĀ howĀ will I do it? How am I going to glorify Him?Ā Ani vehu,Ā Iāll try to be like Him. By trying to be like He is, by imitating Him. In all theĀ middos, all the qualities of character which are described about Hakodosh Boruch Hu in the Torah, I will try to emulate Him.
Emulating Baboons and Serpents
And the Jewish nation did that! Josephus testifies to that. Josephus, you should know, was not aĀ darshan āĀ he wasnāt a very frum Jew either ā but he had the good sense to understand this.āWe have a G-d thatās perfect,ā he writes, āand therefore our nation follows His attitudes.ā
Heās speaking there about the nations of the world and he says,āThe gods of the nations have all the vices and the worshippers have adopted those vices.ā The gods of Rome and Greece were known to him and they were invested with every kind of wickedness and this was imitated by their worshippers.
The Egyptians worshiped the baboon, he said, and so all people in Egypt emulate the baboon. A baboon is jumping up and down in a cage and the people come and bow down; soon they begin acting like baboons. You became like your god; itās human nature.
They worshiped the serpent too ā they admired him and so itās natural that they began adopting his mannerisms and they became serpents in their behavior. Josephus said that; he says the people admired their gods and they acquired the qualities of these animals.
Becoming Perfect and Glorious
But the Am Yisroel, says Josephus, they have the perfect G-d, the G-d with all the exceptional qualities, the most perfect of qualities, and because they emulated the One true Hashem, thatās why they acquired exceptional qualities of character.
Josephus made that statement. Itās a remarkable thing for a politician to say. But he said it because heās saying what was well known and famous among the Jewish people. It was an ideal. Unfortunately, a lot of Jews today never heard of it, evenĀ frumĀ Jews. Itās an ideal for a Jew to study the Ways of Hashem.
And it became our ideal, a national ideal, on that day when our forefathers stood at the Yam Suf and they said together, ā×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼!Weāre so full of gratitude to You Hashem that we take upon ourselves to forever make Your name beautiful and glorious.ā
Imitation As Flattery
Now, when we want to glorify Hashem, there are various things we could do ā you can aggrandize Him by beautifying His mitzvos; you can sing His praises wherever you go and; thatās all wonderful, very good ā but the best way to glorify Hashem is by trying to emulate HisĀ middos.Ā Ani vāHu!Ā I will resemble Him! Thatās worth more than all the words in the world.
You want to elevate Hashem? You want to glorify Him? Study HisĀ middosĀ as described in the Torah and imitate them. Thatās the vow of our forefathers ×Ö²× Ö“× ×Ö°××Ö¼× ā I and He. ×Ö²×Öµ× ×Ö¼×Ö¹×Ö¶× ××Ö¹ ā be like Him. Strive to resemble Hashem! If you want to really glorify Hashem then youāll demonstrate it by imitating His ways and practicing them in your own life.
Part III. Changing Ourselves
Becoming Something
And so we begin to understand now how vital, how urgent, is the function of transforming our personality by emulating the perfect ways of Hashem. Itās not only the way to be successful in this world, the way to be happy and get along with others. Even an Irishman should try to change his character if he wants to live successfully, if he wants to stay married and keep his job. If he wants to get along with his neighbors heāll do that.
But weāre not talking about that now. Itās much more than that. For us, perfecting our character means weāre fulfilling the oath that the Am Yisroel made to Hashem on that day He saved us from destruction. And thatās why the subject of transformation of character among Jews is one of the major forms ofĀ avodas Hashem.Ā Itās because youāre becoming something, aĀ meāeinĀ of theĀ middosĀ of Hakadosh Baruch Hu.
Pesukei DāZimra at Breakfast
So hereās a man full of praise to Hashem. He comes to shul and heās holding his gartel and heās saying Az Yashir,Ā bākol rom,Ā out loud. Heās shaking and heās praising Hashem, ā×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼.ā He says it with a special niggun too. Woohoo! Itās beautiful!
And thatās how itĀ shouldĀ be! It doesnāt say ×Öø× ×©Öø××Ø ×ֹשֶ××.Ā Chazal say: שÖø××Ø ×Ö¹× × Ö¶×Ö±×Ö·×ØĀ āĀ it doesnāt say theyĀ sang, ×Ö¶×ÖøÖ¼× ×Öøש֓×××ØĀ āĀ that theyāreĀ going toĀ sing. Which means forever and ever. He saved us on that day from destruction.It was a great experience that weāll never stop singing about. ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ ā We promise weāre going to sing Your praises forever.
But what happens afterĀ davening? This man comes home and heās frustrated. āWhereās my breakfast?!ā Heās impatient, heās angry.
Oooh! That man is not really praising Hashem. Of course he is, but heās not thinking about what heās saying ā heās just putting on a show when heās inĀ shul.
You know when you praise Hashem? When you come home and you emulate Him. Thatās what you were saying inĀ shulĀ anyhow ā āThis is myĀ KeilĀ and I will make Him great by means of imitating His ways.ā
Make The Compliment Real
So on the way home from shul, heās thinking, āWhat do I know about Hashem? Well, I know Heās anĀ erech apayim.ā Everybody remembers that. Some people say that in Tachanun. ×Ö¶×ØÖ¶×Ö° ×ַפַּ×Ö“× ā Heās long patient. Patience, thatās a greatĀ middahĀ of Hakodosh Boruch Hu. If He wasnāt patient with us, we wouldnāt be around here anymore. Heās always giving us another chance, and another chance and another chance. āHeās ×Ö¶×ØÖ¶×Ö° ×ַפַּ×Ö“×! And that means I have to beĀ erech apayimĀ too!ā
Iām sure you didnāt think about this much ā well, you should start thinking about it now. Thatās what we promised at Kriyas Yam Suf ā āIāll be like Him, Iāll emulate Himā. And itās not enough merely to say ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼,Ā I decided to be like Hashem. Iāll sign the contract, the commitment. No. If you sign a contract but you cannot produce then itās not a good signature. To sign a contract means you have to make up your mind youāre going to work on your character.
Sohe comes into the house and heās thinking, āJust like Hashem is patient, ×Ö¶×ØÖ¶×Ö° ×ַפַּ×Ö“×, Iāll be patient.ā Oh! Thatās ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼ ā Iām praising Him;Ā thatāsĀ the praise of Hashem. Merely saying praises, thatās cheap ā itās words flowing out of your mouth that donāt mean anything. But imitating, thatās a real praise, thatās a real compliment ā itās worth all the words in the world.
At Home and At the Grocery
So when you get married and your wife is bothersome; letās say she talks a lot ā youāll be patient. A wife has to be patient with her husband. Sometimes heās wild. So youāre looking at him and youāre thinking, āAni vāHuĀ ā Iām going to be like Him. Iām going to keep my mouth closed and be patient.ā Youāre patient with everybody at home; the children, the neighbors.
If youāre a rebbe ofĀ talmidimĀ and oneĀ talmidĀ is fresh and you have aĀ yetzer hora, you want to throw him out; no, be patient. If youāre dealing with customers, youāll be patient. Hereās a grocer and a child brings back an open can of sardines, āMy mother didnāt mean this kind of sardines. She wanted a different kind.ā
Could be heās boiling. What will he do with that open can? Itās for the garbage. But the grocer is quiet and takes it back. Now it could be he does it because he knows customers are too valuable to throw away ā better to throw away the sardines ā so he keeps quiet. But he should add another thought ā more important than customers is the oath heās trying to keep.
The Oath Keepers Study
Now, to keep that oath, you first have to learn about His ways and thatās a task. You have to learn it. Without learning you wonāt know.
And so, one of our most important functions in life is that we have to look all the time with our eyes to Hakadosh Baruch Hu to see what we should be emulating. Now you have to know where to look. How do you look? If you sit on the street and look at the sky, you wonāt see anything.
If you donāt look at the Torah, then you wouldnāt know. Itās only those people who are accustomed to theĀ derochimĀ of Hashem as revealed in the Tanach, in the seforim, these people become imbued with these ideas.In the Torah youāll look and youāll learn all the Ways of Hashem. You have to put your mind to it for that purpose, however. Otherwise, youāll never see it.
Stealing and Studying
Hereās a boy learningĀ Bava KammaĀ and heās learning all about theĀ dinimĀ ofĀ nezikin.Ā He has a good head. Heās sitting, learning from a Gemara learningĀ PerekĀ MerubahĀ about theĀ dinimĀ of stealing, about how aĀ ganavĀ has to payĀ kefel.
But you take a look. You see his Gemara. This Gemara that heās learning from, where is it taken from? He stole it from a synagogue. Heās learning about stealing but the Gemara is a stolen Gemara.
A true story by the way. He stole it from my synagogue. I said to him, āLook, youāre learningĀ merubahĀ but that Gemara comes from my shul. Who gave you permission to take it? YouāreĀ chayav kefelĀ already for stealing. And even though youāll return the Gemara,Ā al pi dinĀ you have to pay two Gemaras if there are witnesses against you.ā
And so you see that itās possible for people to look with their eyes in theĀ seferĀ and not see anything.
Job of A Jew
And therefore when you look in theĀ chumash, you have to look with a purpose, with intention. We have to make it an ideal to read the Torah and the Gemara. The Gemara is full of it, theĀ darkei Hashem.Ā Only when youāre not interested in that, youāre not going to see it. Youāll see everything else but that. Youāll see theĀ dinimĀ ofĀ kefel,Ā theĀ dinimĀ ofĀ daled vāheiĀ and youāll learn the Tosfos, youāll learnĀ meforshimĀ too, and sometimes youāll say a goodĀ pshetlĀ yourself but youāre missing the entire point because youāre not looking to learn theĀ darchei Hashem.
Only if youāre looking to see the Ways of Hashem in order to emulate them, thatās how youāll find them. If you start looking, youāll find the Torah is full of the Ways of Hashem, constantly.
And once you begin seeing His Ways you must have a plan; how am I going to put them into practice. You might have to find teachers. There areĀ eitzos.Ā There are schemes. There are strategies. There are tricks to make it easier. There are manyĀ seforimĀ ā in English too ā manyĀ seforim. Tomer Devorah, Cheshbon Hanefesh, Orchos Tzadikim. So many. But whatever it is you must start a career of working on your character and transforming your personality. Thatās the great job that a Jew has to do.
Spare Five Minutes
I remember in Slabodka Yeshiva we learned theseĀ seforim. In the Mirrer Yeshiva in Europe, many learned theseĀ seforim. Every day there was a half hour ofĀ mussarĀ in those yeshivas. And theĀ mussarĀ seforimĀ were put on the table and each student chose one according to his interest. And among thoseĀ seforimĀ was a Tomer Devorah and Cheshbon Hanefesh. Generations and generations of young idealistic men studied theseĀ seforimĀ and to some extent they profited; some more, some less. Thereās no question everybody would profit if this was incorporated in the curriculum of yeshivas and Beis Yankevs today. No question about it.
But we canāt wait for that; everyone has this one life to try and become what ourĀ shevuahĀ requires us to become. It takes some time, some practice and effort, but thatās included in what we undertook to fulfill. Five minutes a day you canāt put into fulfilling the oath that we took on that great day of salvation?
You should know that there were wise men even among the gentiles who gave thisĀ avodahĀ much more than five minutes. There was one wiseĀ goy, a true story, who every Saturday night he told his family that he was going into a room by himself; āPlease donāt disturb meā he said. Every Saturday night he spent time reflecting on his life. A true story ā in recent history.
All About The Benjamin
Iāll tell you something else. A differentĀ goyĀ that you know by name, Benjamin Franklin, spent a great deal of time thinking about himself; he made a calendar and on the calendar he put certain attitudes that he wanted to work on. Patience, humility, guarding his speech.
Now, Benjamin Franklin wasnāt trying to emulate Hashem; he wasnāt thinking about that. Only that he wanted to live successfully. And so he identified thirteen virtues and he worked on one per week. And he had a calendar worked out according to the year and four times a year he repeated it. By the end of the year he repeated all thirteen qualities of character four times. It was the thirteen virtues; thirteen weeks, and he repeated it four times each year, thinking and trying to train himself in these virtues. So you see there were sensible people,Ā goyim,Ā who worked on themselves and they gained prudence; they gained insight into themselves.
But a Torah Jew stands to gain much more than Benjamin Franklin if he puts time away for such a project. A Jew who follows this way in life will grow infinitely greater than even the best gentile because heās not merely preparing for living righteously in this world, for getting along with others; heās doing infinitely more than that.
Fulfilling the Oath
Heās fulfilling this greatĀ shevuahĀ that our forefathers made at Har Sinai, of ×Ö¶× ×§Öµ×Ö“× ×Ö°×Ö·× Ö°×Öµ××Ö¼,Ā this is my Hashem and Iām going to glorify Him, Iāll beautify Him. Itās a very important oath and the Jewish people throughout their history attempt to fulfill it. āWeāre alive only because of You Hashem and we promise that weāll spend our days making you great in this world.ā
Weāre singing Your praises all the time! ××Ö¹××Ö¼ ×Ö·×ַשֵּ×× ×§Ö“×ØÖ°××Ö¼ ×ּ֓שְ×××Ö¹ ××Ö¹×Ö“××¢×Ö¼ ×Öø×¢Ö·×Ö“Ö¼×× ×¢Ö²×Ö“×××Ö¹×ŖÖø××.Ā We try to advertise Hashem to everybody. We teach Hashem to our little children. Children should know Hashem is giving them bread. Heās giving them ice cream. Heās giving them candy. āHashem gave you the candy,ā we tell our children. We have to tell ourselves too! āMake aĀ bracha;Ā thank Hashem constantly.ā You have to remind yourself and your children,Ā baruch atah Hashem,Ā constantly you have to remind yourself about Hashem.
AndĀ hisnaeh lifanav bamitzvos.Ā Weāll make everything connected to Him as beautiful as we can. But most importantly, we can never lose sight of what Abba Shaul taught us. We swore on that day, āAni vāHu!Ā We are going to resemble You!ā Thatās the greatest praise of Hashem, that we want to be like Him.
Have A Wonderful Shabbos
Letās Get Practical
Fulfilling The Oath of Salvation
When our people were saved from certain ruination at Yam Suf, we sang enthusiastically. And we accepted an oath of Anveihu ā I shall glorify Him. We glorify Him by praising Him at all times to everyone who will listen, but especially to ourselves. We beautify Him and anything connected to His service.
It follows that we do everything we can to emulate Him. This week I willĀ bli nederĀ dedicate five minutes each day to studying about one of Hashemās ways and endeavoring to emulate him.