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Blessing His Beloved People
Part I.Ā Bless and Be Blessed
EVERYONE IS BLESSED
This pastĀ Shavuos, like on everyĀ yomtiv, the wholeĀ Am YisroelĀ wasĀ zochehĀ to stand before theĀ kohanimĀ in shul and receive theĀ birchas kohanim. Even those who couldnāt make it to shul ā the women who were at home taking care of the children, and the patients stuck in the hospitals, they also received the blessings. Itās aĀ gemaraĀ (Sotah 38b) ā ×Ö²×Öµ××Ö¶× ×©Ö¶××ַּשָּ×××Ö¹×Ŗ ā if youāre anĀ onessĀ and canāt be in shul, so theĀ birchos kohanimĀ come to you as well.
And so, the whole nation together, without exception, receives theĀ brachosĀ from theĀ kohanimĀ whoraise their handsĀ bāahava, with love, and bless all the people.
Except for one group. And thatās theĀ kohanimĀ themselves. It seems like theyāre left out from this great privilege of receiving theĀ brachos.
WHO BLESSES THE KOHANIM?
Itās a tremendous opportunity for theĀ Am YisroelĀ to stand before theĀ kohanimĀ and receive the blessings of Hakodosh Boruch Hu: ×Ö°×ָרֶ×Ö°×Öø ×ַשֵּ×× ×Ö°×֓שְ××ְרֶ×Öø, Hashemās blessings and Hashemās protection, ×Öø×ֵר ×ַשֵּ×× ×¤ÖøÖ¼× Öø×× ×Öµ×Ö¶××Öø, that the face of Hashem should shine upon us, ×Ö“××Ö»× Ö¶Ö¼×ÖøÖ¼, that He should be gracious to us,Ā ×Ö°×ָשֵ×× ×Ö°×Öø שָ×××Ö¹×,Ā andthat He should bring all types of peace into our lives. There are a lot of good things in thoseĀ pesukimĀ ā and theĀ kohanimĀ are missing out on them all.
But aĀ kohenĀ also wants to be blessed. Just because he is the one privileged to be the conduit through which theĀ brachosĀ flow to theĀ Am Yisroel, does that mean that he has to lose out on receiving theĀ brachos? Where is theĀ yashrus,Ā the fairness, in that?
Itās notĀ myĀ question by the way; itās a question theĀ gemaraĀ inChullin (49a) asks: āHashem affirms theĀ bracha, ×Ö·×Ö²× Ö“× ×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öµ× ā that means,Ā Ā āIām going to listen to the words of theĀ kohanimĀ and bless theĀ Am YisroelĀ with all the good things theĀ kohanimĀ proclaimed. But ×Ö“× ×Ö°×ָרֵ×Ö° ×Ö¶×Ŗ ×Ö·×Ö¹Ö¼×Ö²× Ö“××, who is going to bless theĀ kohanim?ā
THE AGE-OLD PROMISE
Now, we should pay attention well to the answer of theĀ gemaraĀ because it opens for us a new horizon inĀ avodasĀ Hashem. Chazal tell us that theĀ kohanimĀ donāt need any specialĀ brachaĀ because they get theĀ brachosĀ from somewhere else altogether.
Way back, in the beginning ofĀ Parshas Lech Lācha,Ā Hakodosh Boruch Hu declared to our father Avraham: ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āI will bless those who bless youā (Bereishis 12:3). Anybody who blesses you, Iām going to bless him, thatās aĀ passuk. And therefore, says Rav Nachman bar Yitzchok, the blessings upon theĀ kohanimĀ comes from that age-old promise that was made to Avraham. āIf you, theĀ kohanim, are blessing the Am Yisroel, then Iām going to bless youā says Hashem. āIām under contract to bless all those who bless the Am Yisroel.ā
Now, thereās something new that weāre learning from thisĀ gemara; because weāre being told now that when Hashem said to our father Avraham āI will bless those who bless you,ā it was a covenant that He was making with our nation forever. It was a contract that He madeĀ not onlyĀ with Avraham personally, but with theĀ zera Avraham, all of Avrahamās descendants,Ā forever.
THE POLITE GOY
TheĀ gemaraĀ (Chullin 49a) tells us that Rabbi Yishmael was once walking on the road with his disciples, and a gentile who was passing by said, āShalom.ā He greeted him, āPeace to you.ā He saw a lot of Jews coming ā Rabbi Yishmael had a company ofĀ talmidimĀ with him, and this gentile was traveling alone on the road, so probably he thought it would be more diplomatic to bless Rabbi Yishmael. Whatever it was, thisĀ goyĀ greeted Rabbi Yishmael politely.
So Rabbi Yishmael said to him: āI donāt have to answer you. Your answer is already said; itās done.ā What did Rabbi Yishmael mean? And itās explained there: āThe answer, the blessing for you, was already said by Hakodosh Boruch Hu to Avraham Avinu.ā ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āIām going to bless all those who bless you.ā So Rabbi Yishmael was saying, āAs soon as you blessed me, you were already blessed by Hakodosh Boruch Hu.ā
A GENTILEāS LUCKY DAY!
What that means is that when a Jew is honored by a gentile, if a gentile says āGood morningā, or āThank youā to a Jew; if he opens the door for a Jew and says, āHave a good day,ā itās a lucky day for that gentile. Anybody who honors a Jew ā even superficially ā is going to receive a reward. Because we understand that theĀ brachaĀ theĀ goyĀ gave to Rabbi Yishmael probably wasnāt the most genuine of blessings. He didnāt put his hands on Rabbi Yishmaelās head and shed tears praying to Hashem that Rabbi Yishmael should be blessed. No; it was more or less a formality. The gentile saidĀ ShalomĀ to him; thatās all. Thatās what the gentile says to everyone on the road. Heās being polite and wishing him well.
Nevertheless, we are being taught here that any blessing that is said to a Jew ā even to one individualĀ YisroelĀ ā will be paid back in full. And itās all because of the promise that Hakodosh Boruch Hu made to Avraham so many years ago, ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āI will bless all those who bless you, no matter what.ā And itās a gilt-edged certificate; itās as sure as could be.
VERDICT: A SMASHUP OR A BAR FIGHT
And so we can read these words now as an eternal promise to theĀ Am Yisroel:Ā Ā ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āAnybody who blessesĀ anyoneĀ from the Am Yisroel is going to be blessed by Me.ā
And you shouldnāt forget about the end of thatĀ possukĀ as well: ×Ö¼×Ö°×§Ö·×Ö¶Ö¼×Ö°×Öø ×Öø×ֹר- āAnyone who curses you, or makes light of you, Iām going to curse.ā The word ×Ö°×§Ö·×Ö¶Ö¼×Ö°×Öø comes from the word ×§Ö·×, to make light of ā even to make light of a Jew is already very dangerous. So if a non-Jew says an impolite word to you ā heāll call you some kind of a Jew, so you should know that he is out of luck because something is going to happen to him. It may not happen soon enough to please you, but itās an unfailing promise: heās going to get it in the neck.
Maybe on the next block his car will smash against the pole. Or maybe when he gets home his wife will give him a bitter evening and heāll have to run out of the house to the bar and get drunk. And then heāll get beaten up in the bar and come home in the morning with two black eyes. Whatever it is, something is going to happen to him. Thereās no question that anybody who speaks ill of a Jew, if he insults or makes light of a Jew, heās going to get it. Itās a promise that was made to Avraham Avinu.
I was once walking across the street and an Italian bum was sitting in his car waiting for the red light to change. So in order to frighten me he pressed on the gas so that his car would quickly jerk forward toward me. To frighten me! I looked at him and he was acting as if he didnāt see me ā making believe. And his wife is sitting next to him and she is laughing. Theyāre both laughing because they scared an old Jew. So I said quietly to myself, āRibonoĀ ShelĀ Olam. I donāt want You to doĀ tooĀ much harm to him. His leg should come off right above the knee ā thatās all. More than that I donāt want.ā And I want to tell you something:Ā Heād be lucky if that happens; because if he waits forĀ gehenimĀ it will be a pity on him. It would be a very bigĀ chesedĀ for him if he loses his leg right now. And make no mistake about it; you can rely on Hashemās promise ā Heās on the job and Heāll take care of it.
GIVING AND GETTING BLESSINGS
But weāre going to let go of this aspect now and return to the first part of theĀ possuk, the subject of those who speak well of Jews. And we have to pay attention to this very great opportunity because it opens for us a new vista, aĀ derech chayim. Itās a lifetime system of living ā the system of wishing well upon your fellow Jews. And so letās take some time to speak about some very much neglected opportunities which can be utilized by us as part of thisĀ derech.
Weāll begin with one example that I learned from myĀ rebbeimĀ more than fifty years ago. In Slobodka they used to say that when you get anĀ aliyah,Ā and you say to theĀ gabbai ā āYasher koiāachāĀ afterwards,Ā it shouldnāt be a formality. You should say it withĀ peirush hamilos,Ā with the meaning of the words. āYiāyasher koiāchachoāĀ means āMay your strength increase.ā Youāre davening for him!
MUSCLES AND CALCIUM FOR THE GABBAI
Oh, thatās a big difference now. Youāre getting anĀ aliyahĀ and youāre saying to theĀ gabbaiĀ ā youāre saying it inĀ lashon kodesh,Ā but youāre saying, āMay your strength increase.ā You should have bigger muscles! You should have enough calcium in your bones! Your eyesight should be sharper! Everything about you should become more powerful!
Thatās what youāre saying when you sayĀ yiāyasheir koāchacho.Ā If youāre thinking it, then those words now have an entirely different power. And weāre learning now that itās not going to remain unanswered āĀ in your own life!Ā Youāre going to get a blessing for that too.In the measure by which you bless others, thatās how much you will be blessed.
Now, even if you didnāt put anything into your blessing, itās still a blessing. Even if you said āShkuyach,ā without giving it too much thought, itās still something. Like this gentile who passed Rabbi Yishmael on the road. He wasnāt thinking too much about what he was saying. He just said it ā a formality. But even that is included in āI will bless those who bless you.ā
And so, even if you say it superficially, you have already done a wise thing; you have made a very good investment. Because Hakodosh Boruch Hu is listening and itās going to come back to you. Itāll come back surely in the smallest manner ā youāre going to be greeted by others. Donāt disparage that! Didnāt it ever happen to you that you pass people on the street and you are offended because they donāt seem particularly interested in looking at you, even though you are acquaintances? And youāre thinking, āWhatās wrong with this grouchy fellow?!ā Well, maybe itās because you didnāt greet them! That could be! Because thatās the very lowest level of compensation ā if you bless others, then others will bless you. And even that is valuable for a person. To be always greeted happily by others is a boon for living happily and healthily.
HASHEM ALWAYS DELIVERS
But you should know that there are much greater benefits to come. Anybody who will take the trouble to say words of blessing to a Jew must know that Hakodosh Boruch Hu is now mortgaged to him; and Heās going to deliver. The man who makes the effort to bless theĀ Am YisroelĀ should know that Hakodosh Boruch Hu is under contract to deliver the goods.
It doesnāt mean that the man will be aĀ ben Olam Haba,Ā or that heāll know Shas. It doesnāt mean that heāll become a millionaire. But there are a lot of blessings beneath that, that weād like to get as well. And he is promisedĀ min hashomayim;Ā becausefrom the outset of the career of our nation, when Avraham set out fromĀ CharanĀ to begin building theĀ Am Yisroel,Ā he set out with this contract in his hand: ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āI will bless those who bless you.ā
DONāT SAY HELLO!
Tonight as you walk out and you meet somebody you know, so youāll say to him āShalom aleichem.āĀ Not āhelloā ā you sayĀ āshalom aleichem.ā
There was a Rosh Yeshiva in America, Harav Gustman, he should be well [zatzal], who once heard somebody say āHello.ā So Rav Gustman said, āVus epessĀ āhelloā?! āHelloā doesnāt mean anything,ā he said. āSayĀ shalom aleichem, a real greeting.ā
So imagine that when you walk out and you see this friend, instead of saying meaningless words like āHiā or āHelloā, youāll sayĀ Shalom Aleichem!Ā However, thatās only a start ā thatās the first rung of the ladder. Because if youāll apply your mind to what youāre saying and youāll actually mean the words, then youāre making use of the opportunity of ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø the way Hashem really intended.
NO SCOLDING FOR YOU TONIGHT
When you say āShalom aleichemāĀ you should put a little thought into it ā add some commentary in your mind. Think: āWhen you come home youāre wife shouldnāt scold you for coming home so late. She might say, āYouāre running out to Rabbi Millerās lectures so late at night and Iām here all by myself at home with the children.ā ā And then there might be a squabble and everything might be ruined for the next few days.
So youāre you blessing him,Ā āShalom aleichem,āĀ and youāre thinking, āWhen you get home everything should be quiet.ā AndĀ shalom aleichemĀ means much more thanĀ shalom bayis.Ā There are many things you can have in mind when you say those words and you should practice them up. Every time you sayĀ shalom aleichem,Ā think of something else. āThe wholeĀ briyahĀ should be at peace with you ā you shouldnāt have any enemies ā even the microbes, the bacteria that would like to invade your body and cause different types of trouble ā they should all make peace with you.āĀ Ā ShalomĀ means good health too.
Next time you say it, youāre thinking something else:Ā He shouldnāt have bad neighbors ā bad neighbors sometimes make life miserable. So many things are included in that greeting! And therefore, something as āsmallā as greeting a friend is an opportunity for a tremendous amount of achievement.
WHAT āGOOD NIGHTā REALLY MEANS
And itās not only when you sayĀ shalom aleichem. Even when you say good night to someone itās a glorious opportunity. Those two words should come along with a lot of commentary in your mind. Good night means you should come home safely. It means that your back shouldnāt suffer from sleeping in the wrong position on a mattress thatās too soft.
Good night means that your family at home should be found in the best order ā there shouldnāt be any fire tonight in your house. The toilet pipe shouldnāt burst suddenly! Oh, if such a thing happens ā a flood in the middle of the night! You have to run into the bathroom in your pajamas and wade into the pool of who knows what, with your bare feet. And now youāre trying to get a plumber in the middle of the night.
And so, when you say āGood night,ā you put in your mind all these things ā that he should sleep well and get up in the morning refreshed, and in the meantime nobody should come into his house uninvited. There are a lot things included in a good night.
SURPRISE YOUR WIFE IN THE MORNING
In the morning you say āGood morningā to people; youāre saying it anyhow, so why not think about what those two words mean. First of all, itās important to say it ā many people neglect to say it. It wouldnāt be a bad idea to surprise your wife and say good morning to her when you come back from shul in the morning. That would be a nice little gift! Even if youāre not putting any intention into it ā even if youāre an actor and youāre deceiving her.
And surely if you put some thought into it; if thereāsĀ peirush hamilosĀ andĀ kavanah, thatās a great achievement. Good mornings are very important. We want to have a lot of very good mornings in our lives. And we want our mornings to beĀ reallyĀ good mornings, not just empty and hollow good mornings. And therefore it should be a principle of ours to think about the meaning of the words that we say. Weāll begin to train ourselves in forgoing all of the meaningless good morning greetings that fill our lives, and to actually bless our fellow Jews.
SOMEBODY IS LISTENING
āYour breakfast should be digested well,ā youāre thinking as you greet an acquaintance. āYour wife shouldnāt anger you.ā āYou shouldnāt miss the train.ā āYou should find a lot of orders waiting for you on your desk when you come to your office.ā āYou should have a smooth and happy day.ā NowĀ thatāsĀ a good morning greeting! And he doesnāt know what youāre thinking ā thatās not important right now. Because there is Somebody whoĀ doesĀ know.
Now I know that this idea may seem ridiculous to people who never thought about this. It may seem exaggerated and far fetched. Itās always that way. Anybody who is good, is a fanatic to somebody who is beneath him. If you eat kosher, youāre a fanatic to a lot of people. If you eat glatt kosher, so youāre a fanatic to people who eat kosher. And so, if you sayĀ shalom aleichemĀ the right way, youāre also a fanatic ā to the people who do everything else. The people who donāt think are always surprised at the better ones. And therefore we should try to rise above the multitudes and take advantage of this glorious opportunity ā no matter what others think! If you want to be an āextremist,ā try to utilize these opportunities weāre speaking about here and itās going to be aĀ derechĀ for you to succeed.
As you go through life saying good morning and good night to your fellow Jews, Hakodosh Boruch Hu will be listening. And Heāll be echoing your words and Heāll say good morning to you ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø. And when He says good morning He really means it. Itās going to be a very good morning. And the more you thinking about what youāre saying, the more heart you put into yourĀ brachos, the greater of an achievement it is.
Part II.Ā How to Bless
CHAZERING BRACHOS
Now, when you meet someone, and you want to wish him āMazel Tov,āĀ often itās just going through the motions. In general, thatās what greetings are ā just formalities, niceties. Of course, you should be as enthusiastic about it as you can; at least you shouldĀ actĀ enthusiastic in order to make a good impression. And thereās nothing wrong with that ā we should all want to make good impressions on everyone we meet.
By the way, that should be one of your goals whenever you meet someone ā you should act in a way that will make him think well of you. Thatās what we should all want. I want people to say, āYou know Miller? Heās a good fellow, a nice person!ā So be enthusiastic with your greetings, add a warm smile to them ā try to score some points.
But now, weāll walk up to the second rung of our ladder: Suppose you do this. After you greet him, after you wish himĀ Mazel Tov, so you take leave of him. And after you walk ten steps; now he doesnāt see you anymore, he canātĀ hear you. And now you repeat those same words again, when heās not listening. āMazel Tov!Ā You should have a lot ofĀ nachas!āĀ Now, nobody should hear you talking to yourself! Be careful about that because most people donāt understand greatness ā they scorn greatness. But donāt let that stop you from doing it.
And you should even add something. The more the better. āHashem should help you find all the money you need to pay theĀ chasunahĀ bills. And your daughter and her new husband should get along with each otherĀ bāshalom. And you should find goodĀ shidduchimĀ for your other children too.ā Oh, now youāre talking! Youāre not saying it just to flatter him or as empty words of formality. Youāre saying it because you actually want Hashem to bless him. And youāre practicing the great principle of how Hashem directs this world: ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āI will bless those who bless you.ā
THE COMMENTARY ON āGOOD SHABBOSā
This is a practice that trueĀ ovdei HashemĀ can do without any effort. And itās a practice thatās available to you all the time. Youāre walking on the street on Shabbos and you say, āGood Shabbos, good Shabbos.ā All day long youāre passing by people and wishing them well. And then you pass by and forget all about it. Itās a tragedy to waste the opportunity! So five paces later say āGood Shabbosā to him again. This time he doesnāt hear it. Butthis timeĀ youĀ mean it more.
And under your breath you should add theĀ peirush hamilos āĀ with a fewĀ peirushim!Ā How much thought, how many blessings could be included in a good Shabbos! āYour meals should beĀ geshmak;Ā your wifeāsĀ challahĀ andĀ kugelĀ should taste exceptional.āĀ āHashem should help you enjoy your family.ā āYou should have a good Shabbos nap and beĀ matzliachĀ in your learning over Shabbos.ā āYou should getĀ shlishiĀ and it shouldnāt cost you too much money!ā Thereās so much to think about when you wish somebody a good Shabbos.
HOW TO REJOICE FROM AFAR
Another example of turning ordinary opportunities into diamonds: Hereās aĀ chossonĀ or aĀ kallahĀ who send you an invitation ā theyāre almost strangers to you. Itās a distant relative or a very remote acquaintance and you have no intention of coming. So first of all, when you write out the card, when they request theĀ favourĀ of your reply, donāt merely say āI wonāt be able to come.ā Write in, āOh, thank you for your invitation! I wish you the best of happiness!ā Put in aĀ brachaĀ for them; donāt waste their fifteen cents. Put in a blessing there for them when you send it back. Here, you can write like this: āI regret that I will not have the honor of attending your simcha, but I shall rejoice with you from afar.ā Thatās how to do it ā even if you donāt feel it. Hakodosh Boruch Hu will treat you no less than that. Even an external blessing is appreciated.
And if you put in some thought, āI reallyĀ amĀ happy for them,ā then youāre already exceptional. This you donāt write ā you say it with your mouth. The recipient doesnāt have to hear this. As youāre closing the envelope, while youāre walking to the mailbox, you say, āI wish them both a long and happy life together.ā And if you want to add some particulars ā āThey should have a lot of money, and many healthy children. And a beautiful home and they should never quarrel. They should have a lot of good times together in their home.ā If you add these words or these thoughts, then you have to know that you are walking on theĀ derechĀ to success in life. Wishing for the good of others even when they donāt hear you is aĀ derechĀ inĀ avodas HashemĀ ā itās a way of achieving perfection.
THE ALTER TALKS TO HOUSES
This is something I learned from a great man. The Alter of Slabodka was once walking in the street with his disciples. And they passed by a house where one of the kollel men lived, the Alter stopped, and faced the house, and said to the house, āGut morgenĀ ā Good morning. You should have a wonderful day.ā And when he walked further, as he passed certain houses he said good morning to the houses. So one of hisĀ talmidimĀ said, āBut nobody hears?!ā So the Alter replied,Ā Tzu darf ehr heren? āĀ āDoes heĀ haveĀ to be listening?ā You hear that? You hear what the Alter said?! Thatās from a great man!Ā Tzu darf ehr heren āĀ āDoes he have to hear?!ā I consider that aĀ gadlus; itās a remarkable thing that we just heard!
What?! You have to say good morning just because of etiquette? Thatās a waste of a greeting! As you pass by a house of aĀ rosh yeshiva, of aĀ talmid chochom, of any frum Jew, say āGood morningā to the house. And you know whatās happening? Youāre getting for yourself that great blessing ā Hakodosh Boruch Hu Himself says:Ā Vaāavarcha, āIām going to bless you.ā Thatās a career! The point of theĀ brachaĀ is not thatĀ heĀ should hear you; what you want is thatĀ Hakodosh BoruchĀ HuĀ should hear you and see that you love His children and that you want only good things for them.
BLESSING BIG MEZUZAHS
And so, when you walk down the street, keep your eyes peeled for the bigĀ mezuzos.Ā And when you see one, āAh, aĀ brachaĀ on that house.Ā āYivoreich es beis Yisroel!āĀ Theyāre not just homes. TheyāreĀ holyĀ homes. Beautiful kosher homes. So make sure to stop for a moment and bless those inside. And be specific. Say the words. āRibono Shel Olam, please keep everyone in this home healthy. Let them all get along with each other and live happy and safe lives. Please Hashem, let there be no mishaps in the home. Let the children all beĀ matzliachĀ in yeshiva and they should all find goodĀ shidduchim. And the parents should seeĀ nachasĀ from their children.ā
The next house, another bigĀ mezuzah.Ā āEveryone in that home should be well for many happy years. They should all have a comfortable livelihood and pleasure and satisfaction from their children. The children in that home should find the bestĀ shidduchim.Ā In that home there should be onlyĀ simchosĀ and happy occasions.ā
BEHIND THE SCENES IN YESHIVA
And so when you pass by a yeshiva and you see the yeshiva men going in and going out ā donāt neglect the opportunity. Do you realize what an opportunity it is when you walk by a yeshiva?!Ā You should say, āAĀ brachaĀ on all theĀ roshei yeshiva, theĀ menahalim, the children, their mothers and fathers, the children of the kollel people ā all of them should live long.ā
Pray to Hakodosh Boruch Hu that the boys should have good heads. You know how important a good head is in theĀ yeshivosĀ today? A boy with a little bit of a weaker head gets so discouraged. Especially with theĀ rebbeimĀ who are saying bigĀ pilpulim.Ā Even in the lower shiurim theĀ rebbeimĀ are not saying plainĀ pshatĀ and the boys get discouraged. Each rebbe wants to show heās āRabbi Akiva Eigerā so heās saying deepĀ pilpulimĀ ā I donāt know how good they are but heās trying his best anyhow. He feels heās not getting paid too much, so he might as well learn for himself. And meanwhile the poor, bewilderedĀ talmidimĀ understand nothing.Ā So a few very good boys succeed. Just a few of theĀ baāalei kishronos,Ā those with the good heads.
So what do people do? They grumble, they complain about it. They blame this one and the other one. But why donātĀ youĀ do something about it? So you have to pray for all those boys that are being frustrated and being disappointed by these difficulties. And very many of them are being turned off ā of course they are, because they donāt understand what is going on. āHakodosh Boruch Hu, please giveĀ daāasĀ to all the boys in the yeshivos. Help them understand theĀ shiur. Help them understand theĀ gemara.ā
PRAYING FOR THE LITTLE GIRLS
And to the girls as well. Hereās a girl ā I knew the family ā and she couldnāt keep up with her studies in the Beis Yaakov. They wanted to expel her from the school. So her father came running. āWhat should I do?!ā he said. āI canāt take her to public school.Ā Gevalt,Ā what am I going to do? What are you doing to my child?!ā They told him,āWhat could we do already? We canāt keep her.ā So they made a deal finally, they let her go just to English alone. But it was a terrible thing, a calamity ā it wasnāt her fault, it was a girl who just couldnāt keep up. So why arenāt you praying for these girls?
And so one of the best opportunities, one of the most authentic and real opportunities, is when the one youāre heaping brachos upon doesnāt hear, and doesnāt know. So you pass by aĀ Beis YaakovĀ and the little girls are playing in the yard. You see little Jewish girls, and itās warm outside, itās hot, but theyāre wearing stockings, and sleeves. Itās beautiful to see! Donāt just pass them by! TheyāreĀ tzon kodoshim, itās a holy nation. These are going to be the mothers of our people, mothers ofĀ frumĀ families. How could you pass them by without a generous blessing from the bottom of your heart?!
THE BEST INVESTMENT
Does it cost you any money? Why are you being so stingy with yourĀ brachos? Itās the easiest and cheapest investment for you. Bless them that they should all be well and have lives full ofĀ hatzlacha.Ā Each one of them should be healthy and they should live to get very goodĀ shidduchimĀ ā each one of them. And they should all be wealthy and all have a lot of healthy normal children. They should live long! And their husbands should be bigĀ talmideiĀ chachomim. Bless them! Whatever else you could think of, give them as manyĀ brachosĀ as you can!
Get into the habit! āThey should all live long,ā you say. Ooh, wha! You made a big business deal just now with Hashem. ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø ā āI will bless those who bless theĀ Am Yisroel!āĀ Say it with your mouth. Itās the best business by the way, the best investment you could make. The best business in this world is to bless a Jew because Hashem says, āI will bless those who bless you.ā
Part III.Ā Blessing with Love
THE CHOCHMA OF LOVE
Now all this is really externalities. Itās important externalities, yet thatās what it is. But there is something else here that is very important ā maybe even more important than what you just heard ā and that is to be שָ××Öµ×Ö· ×ְּש֓××Ö°×Öø×Ŗ×Ö¹ שֶ×× ×Ö²×ֵר×Ö¹, to rejoice in somebody elseās happiness; to have an actual love for the Am Yisroel ā a love that causes you to desire the happiness of others.
And to actually achieve such a feeling, such an attitude in life, requires the bigĀ chochmaĀ of understanding how great the Jewish people are in the eyes of Hashem ā how much Hashem loves His people.Ā Oheiv amo YisroelĀ ā He loves His people Yisroel!Ā Ahavah rabah ahavtanu, a great love You love us.Ā Chemlah gedolah vāyiseirah, a tremendous and overwhelming love and compassion.
THE REAL ESTATE TYCOON
As much as youāll ever love anybody in this world, itās nothing compared to how much Hakodosh Boruch Hu loves every single Jew. He loves theĀ Am YisroelĀ more than He loves the entire universe. Itās aĀ possukĀ in theĀ chumashĀ (Devorim 10:14): ×Öµ× ×Ö·×ַשֵּ×× ×Ö±×Ö¹×§Ö¶××Öø ×ַשָּ××Ö·×Ö“× ×ּשְ××Öµ× ×ַשָּ××Ö·×Ö“× ā āBehold to Hashem belong the heavens and the heavens above the heavens.ā āItās all mine,ā He says. āThere are billions of worlds in space, with huge stars, bigger than the sun. And theyāre all Mine.ā
A lot of real estate belongs to Hakodosh Boruch Hu. And the space between the worlds is so vast that we canāt even measure it. In millions of light years you canāt measure the distance between the stars. And there are trillions and trillions of such stars. And Hakodosh Boruch Hu says, āDespite all that, רַק ×Ö·Ö¼×Ö²××Ö¹×ŖÖ¶××Öø ×ָשַ××§ ×ַשֵּ××, only in your forefathers did Hashem delight.ā
āAll this is nothing to Me ā My delight is only your forefathers.ā ×Ö°×Ö·×Ö²×Öø× ××Ö¹×ŖÖø×, to love them. So you might say, āWeāll, thatās for our forefathers. What about us?ā So theĀ possukĀ goes on, ×ÖøÖ¼×Ö¶× ×Ö·Ö¼×Ö¼×Ö¹× ×Ö·×Ö¶Ö¼×,Ā you,Ā forever.Ā Itās an openĀ possukĀ in theĀ chumashĀ ā you canāt get away from it.
LOVING THOSE HASHEM LOVES
Now thisĀ possukĀ you should study as often as you can. Because these words should be theĀ pnimiyus, the interiority, of everything we said here tonight. We giveĀ brachosĀ not because we want Hashem to bless us ā that too ā but most important is that we want the good ofĀ acheinu bnei Yisroel.Ā Itās when you love theĀ Am Yisroel,Ā and you bless them all the timeĀ bāahava, thatās what brings theĀ brachosĀ of Hashem into your life.
The Mesillas Yesharim (Chapter 19) tells us that āHashem loves only those that love the Am Yisroel.ā And therefore Hakodosh Boruch Hu says, āWhoever blesses My people, I will bless that person Myself.ā
Because Hashem loves theĀ Am Yisroel,Ā He therefore loves all those who wish well upon theĀ Am Yisroel. And so, you have no choice ā you have to get into your head that you love frum Jews. You make up your mind that you love theĀ Am YisroelĀ and you want good things for them. So when youāre walking down the street and you see a frum Jew you begin to practice. You say, āI love that man. Hakodosh Boruch Hu should give him lots of money today.ā You see a black hat, āAh, I love him.ā Bless the black hatters! You didnāt see his face yet; when he comes closer so maybe youāll see that maybe itās someone who got on your nerves last week ā love him anyway! He has a black hat; heāsĀ unzerer, heāsĀ māshelanu.
THE HOLY WALK
And if you practice this, so your walk to the grocery, to the shul, is transformed into a whole different walk altogether ā itās a whole different way of walking down the street. Youāre walking down Ocean Parkway but actually youāre walking in the ways of Hashem. Because thatās what Hashem wants! Hakodosh Boruch Hu loves His people more than anything else. And so when we fill our days with blessing theĀ Am YisroelĀ becauseĀ weĀ love them, we are fulfilling theĀ mitzvah dāoraisahĀ ofĀ vāhalachta bādrachavĀ ā āAnd you should walk in the ways of Hashemā.
So take a walk along Ocean Parkway, or on 15th Avenue in Boro Park, and youāll see frum Jews. And each time one passes you, so you think in your mind ā and better yet you can say it with your lips ā āHakodosh Boruch Hu should give himĀ bracha vāhatzlochaĀ in everything for long and happy days.ā
GREATNESS AT THE WINDOWSILL
You stand at your window and you wait for decent Jews to pass by, and you say, āAh, a pleasure to see such a sight! Hashem, ×ָּרְ×Öµ× ×Ö·×Ö²×ØÖµ× ×ØÖ·×Ö²×Öµ× ×¦Ö“×Ö°×§Öø×ŖÖ°×Öø ×ŖÖøÖ¼×Ö“×× ×ÖøÖ¼×Ö°×Öµ× āĀ āBless them, purify them, forever grant them your righteous merciesā (Tefillas Nechunia ben Hakaneh), with a full heart you pray for them, you bless them, you hope for the best for them. You know sometimes by accident you look through the window and you see a young Jewish woman pushing a baby carriage; inside there are two babies and there are two more hanging onto the handles, and sheās chasing after another one whoās running ahead.
Hereās your chance! Sheās raising up a Jewish family; sheās doing the heavy lifting for the Am Yisroel, so why should you be stingy with your words? Why shouldnāt you shower some blessings on her head? She doesnāt have to hear. From the window say, āHakodosh Boruch Hu should bless her withĀ nachasĀ from all of them. She should dance at theĀ chasunosĀ of all their grandchildren. She should haveĀ parnasahĀ and an easy time raising them. She should have the bestĀ shidduchimĀ for her sons and her daughters.ā Why shouldnāt you say that? It costs you money? Your bank balance will remain the same.
THE BANK ACCOUNT THAT MATTERS MOST
Actually it wonāt remain the same; because thereās another bank account thatās more important. When the time comes and they wheel a person out of the funeral parlor, and the funeral director is standing there directing the traffic, and the relatives are standing there sadly, so this man is leaving everything behind. He canāt take his money along with him. And this man now is very sad ā even though heās getting a ride in a big limousine heās sad because he canāt take along a thing. All of his money is not his anymore. But there is one account, one balance, which he takes along with him, because all of the diamonds ofĀ maāasim tovimĀ are forever. And to beĀ mivareich es amo YisroelĀ is one of the most importantĀ maāasim tovimĀ you can accomplish in this world.
Isnāt it a pity the world doesnāt know about this? Itās a diamond mine! Suppose you had a diamond mine in your backyard but you knew nothing about it, and now someone comes along and does you a favor; he reveals the secret to you. So you walk out into the backyard with a pail and shovel, and in a few minutes youāre a millionaire.
LIFE IS ACRES OF DIAMONDS
Thatās what this world is; life is acres of diamonds. But what good is it if you donāt bend over and pick them up? At first when they came to South Africa, the Kimberley Mines had diamonds laying on the surface. If you walked along and kept your eyes open, there was a diamond here and a diamond there. Thatās what this world is ā there are diamonds on the surface. Many, many diamonds. And if you learn to recognize them, and if youāre smart enough, youāll be able to achieve what you came down here for ā to collect as many of these diamonds as possible.
Now, donāt think it means a great struggle. If I would say that you have to learnĀ chiddushei torahĀ of theĀ Ktzos HachoshenĀ every day, so you could tell me that it takes a lot of work. Itās not a bad idea by the way; every day, anotherĀ Ktzos Hachoshen.Ā After a hundred days, you have a hundredĀ KtzosĀ ā youāre aĀ shtickel lamdanĀ already. A hundred more days, and youāre already a fineĀ lamdan. Some people learnĀ allĀ theĀ Ktzos Hachoshen!Ā Very good! But these things require a great deal of effort. If you want to be a Torah scholar, ×Öø×Ö·×¢Ö°×ŖÖøÖ¼ ×ָצָ××ŖÖø ā youāre going to have to labor in order to attain your objective.
If you want to become a bigĀ baāal deiāah,Ā aĀ baāal machshava,Ā aĀ baāal emunah,Ā then thereās a lot of work to be done. In order to achieveĀ middos tovos, to acquire good character, thereās training you must follow, a lot of important things. And theyāre not easy, but theyāre worth the effort.
THE EASY WAY
But Iām not proposing that for all of you right now; Iām saying easier things. Weāre learning here about an achievement that is immensely easy. And the profit isĀ immenselyĀ great. And that is the career of blessing fellow Jews. Now, when I say career, I mean that you must take the ideas that youāre studying here tonight, impress them upon your minds, and consider how to incorporate them into your regular practice, your regular routine of life. Because with a little bit of thought and some planning, you can live a life of ×Ö·×Ö²×ָרֲ×Öø× ×Ö°×ָרְ×Ö¶××Öø. Because, tell me, what difficulty lies in this exercise of good character? Nothing really! Itās one of the easiest things in the world to do ā to bless your fellow Jew.
Letās make it clear to ourselves that this is what weāre in this world for. Weāre here to pick up all those diamonds on the floor. Thatās our purpose. When a person is discouraged as he walks through the diamond fields, so heās thinking that he hasĀ rachmanusĀ on himself, he has pity on his status in life ā āIf onlyĀ thisĀ would have happened;ā āIf only I would be inĀ hisĀ shoesā ā so he walks through life not even looking where heās going. And as he passes by through his days in this world, heās passing by riches, wealth that he could have picked up. And when the time comes to leave this world he walks empty handed out of this world.
THE MALACH MEETS THE MESHUGGENER
And so when he comes to the gate ofĀ Gan Eden, theĀ shomer hadeless,Ā theĀ malachĀ standing at the gate, says, āLetās see what you have in your hand.ā So you tell him, āMy hands are empty ā I didnāt have the opportunities that others had.ā So theĀ malachĀ tells him, āMeshugener!Ā You were walking through diamond fields! You should have grabbed all you could! Why did you waste your life?ā
You know what that means? It means that you could have been filling your days with greatness. And itās the greatness that Hashem loves more than anything else. He loves those who love His people! And when you come back to Hakodosh Boruch Hu after a lifetime of blessing fellow Jews and He says, āSo, what happened?ā Oh, that dreaded question: āDid you accomplish anything in that world I sent you to?ā
So youāll tell Him, āWell, I blessed many Jews.ā āOh,ā Hakodosh Boruch Hu says, āNow weāre talking! Now youāre Mine, because thatās My job; Iām busy blessing My peopleĀ baāshalomĀ all the time!Ā Hashem yivoreich es amo baāshalom.Ā And youāre helping Me out? If thatās the case, then you belong with Me and you come back into My bosom forever and ever. I am theĀ Oheiv amo YisroelĀ par excellence, and all those who love My people, I love eternally.ā And that means that the more you showerĀ yourĀ blessings on theĀ Am YisroelĀ in this world, the more Hashem will shower upon youĀ HisĀ blessings in this world and in the World to Come forever and ever.
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