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Q:

I proposed to a girl who accepted but my parents are saying that we have to wait – we shouldn’t get engaged until they meet her. But they’re not able to come here until after Pesach. Should I wait or not?

A:

Absolutely.  You have to wait until your parents see the girl.  Otherwise, they’ll think that you’ve done something against their will and they’ll be sure to find some chisoron.  The truth is they’ll find chisronos anyhow even if they do meet her first.  But now at least they saw and they approved.  So now they’re partners with you in your decision.

So try to wait until Pesach.  Pesach is just around the corner.

TAPE # E-1 (February 1995)

Rav Avigdor Miller on Delaying Your Engagement

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Q:

I proposed to a girl who accepted but my parents are saying that we have to wait – we shouldn’t get engaged until they meet her. But they’re not able to come here until after Pesach. Should I wait or not?

A:

Absolutely.  You have to wait until your parents see the girl.  Otherwise, they’ll think that you’ve done something against their will and they’ll be sure to find some chisoron.  The truth is they’ll find chisronos anyhow even if they do meet her first.  But now at least they saw and they approved.  So now they’re partners with you in your decision.

So try to wait until Pesach.  Pesach is just around the corner.

TAPE # E-1 (February 1995)

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