You said we should greet people with a sever ponim yafos. But if a person always looks at people passing by won’t he be nichshal in shemiras ha’einayim, in watching his eyes?
So let me explain it to you. When men pass by you should look and greet them. Women, you don’t look.
If the woman happens to be a close person; once when I was walking by and all of a sudden a lady says, “Pa, don’t you see me?” It was my daughter.
Once I was walking in the street and young woman accosted me, a lady pushing a baby carriage. She said “Zeida, you want to see your grandchildren?” It was a granddaughter with a great-grandchild. So ordinarily it’s their business; if they’re relatives they’ll accost you, if it’s a woman that you know.
Otherwise, you just look at men and make it your business to be nice to all the men you see in the street. If a woman will say anything to you, be nice to her too by all means.
So the question is solved like this: when you see a pair of pants look up and see the face.
TAPE # 970 (July 1994)