What should one’s reaction be when he hears that his friend’s child is very sick?
The first reaction should be to ask for the child’s name and make sure to be mispallel for him. Ask Hakodosh Boruch Hu to help him. That’s a chiyuv. Shmuel Ha’Navi said, גם אנכי חלילה לי מחטא לשם מחדל להתפלל בעדכם – “And also I, far be it from me to sin against Hashem and refrain from praying on your behalf” (Shmuel Alef 12:23). Shmuel called it chalilah to not pray for a person who needs help. It’s so important!
Take the name and pray for him. Your friend doesn’t have to hear it. Stand in a corner somewhere and speak to Hashem. Or find a telephone booth. You can even take the receiver in your hand, if you want. And pray to Hashem: “Please Ribono Shel Olam, send a refuah she’leima to so and so, bi’soch sha’ar cholei Yisroel.” Not once! Many times! It’s very important to do that. Very important! You should carry papers with you that have the names of cholim. Carry these papers and from time to time look into the papers and be mispallel. And also in Shemonah Esrei. And any other time. And say these tefillos again and again. It’s a very important mitzvah. A very important opportunity. It’s gemillas chassodim to be mispallel for someone who is sick.
TAPE # E-247 (October 2000)