How can you say that world is tov me’od, that it’s a very good world and we should be busy thanking Hashem, when every day we hear of young people dying and leaving over young yesomim and yesomos?
And the answer is ad kan divrei yetzer hora – that’s the yetzer hora speaking. You have to know that your job is to be thinking about the good things that Hashem did for you, and when you bring up misfortunes of others, it’s only a dodge, an excuse not to fulfill that obligation. Now, if you’re talking about ideology, hashkafah, it can be explained very easily, but right now when the question is introduced into the subject of thanking Hashem, you should know it’s nothing but yetzer hara.
First of all, is the language of the Rambam: “Most of the things Hashem does for us are good things.” Most people are well. Rov cholim lechaim – most people recover from illnesses. Most people have enough to eat. And therefore every person should think, “For what Hashem did for me I have to be grateful to Him, and I will not allow any kind of a shadow to cross my mind because of what happened to others.” Anything else is absolutely a pitoi, a persuasion of the yetzer hara to try to dissuade you from the very great function of being grateful to Hashem.
Now, if you’re looking for explanations, let me tell you something – Hakadosh Baruch Hu does things for a reason. Now I don’t want to blame anybody, but since you asked a question, I’m going to tell you something. When children are brought up in selfish ways – parents today are spoiling children, allowing them to have pleasures, things that are superfluous, and so they’re going to grow up people who desire good times. Their minds are set on gashmiyus. Parents are training their children the wrong way. And Hakadosh Baruch Hu is displeased both with the parents and the children.
There are so many ways a person could lose the right to live. If a person for instance is not osek in learning Torah at all, you know what a great sin that is? Talmud Torah keneged kulam. So you ask me a kashah, this man did learn Torah and something happened. That’s again the yetzer hara. Because there’s always a reason.
Let’s talk in general. People are punished for reasons. I’m not going to blame them – it’s not derech eretz to say that but you should know Hakadosh Baruch Hu lo avad dinah belo dinah; whatever He does, He has a reason for it. Mi ha’ish hachafetz chaim, you want to live long? Netzor leshoncha meira. If people gabble on the telephone lashon hara frequently, if women fight with their daughters-in-law, daughters-in-law fight with their mothers-in-law, you should know Hakadosh Baruch Hu looks down and is displeased with them. And even if both are frum, something might chalilah happen. And therefore there’s always explanations. We’re not always capable of analyzing what happened to other people but there’s always reasons.
I know some people, frum people! Here’s a man who died young; he got ill and died young. A tragedy! A mystery! But I know the answer to the mystery. I knew him. When he was a bochur he got married. Right after the chasuna he said he wants a gett from the kallah. I went to him; I tried to persuade him.
You’re just married,” I said. “You’re ruining her.” I tried. “Your parents put so much money into the chasuna.”
“I don’t like her,” he said.
You married her! Once you married you can’t say “I don’t like her.” But no, he was an akshan. He was a stubborn fellow. He was a good bochur, a good learner, but he had akshanus in him. He wanted a girl that he liked and finished. And so he divorced her. Now, when the time came and he became ill prematurely, nobody understood why. I think I know why. He passed away early. Hashem’s judgment was on him.
Here’s a girl in Bais Yaakov. Her teacher, a woman trying to make a living, she teaches the girls. And she’s trying to make a lecture on a certain inyan in hashkafah. So one of the girls raised her voice to mimic her teacher. “Mmmm mmmm.” The teacher didn’t say anything. She heard but she didn’t say a thing. A terrible thing what that girl did! Malbin pnei chaveiro berabim! A terrible thing.
Well that girl was sitting in a taxi one day and another car came and bumped into a telegraph pole and knocked it down and it fell on her taxi; a freak accident and she was killed. Nobody knows why. Nobody knows why! Hakadosh Baruch Hu knows why. Lo avad dinah belo dinah – Hashem doesn’t do things without judgment.
And therefore mi haish hachafetz chaim, you want to live long? Netzor leshoncha meira – close your mouth against saying bad things. Yiras Hashem tosef yamim – if you fear Hashem it will add to your years, ushenos reshaim tektzornah – while the lives of the wicked are cut short.
“Oh! You’re saying they are reshaim?!” People get upset. “How could you say such a thing?!” What do you know about that? The fact that they’re Orthodox? That doesn’t mean they’re not doing sins. Orthodox people can be leitzim, ba’alei machlokes, all kinds of aveiros; very serious aveiros.
And therefore don’t judge Hakadosh Baruch Hu lekaf chovah. Thank Hakadosh Baruch Hu if He’s good to you and don’t let any kind of a shadow of what happened to others cross your path. Sing to Hakadosh Baruch Hu; shiru lo zamru lo sichu bechol nifleosav, talk about what He did for you. That’s all you think about. What did He do for me! I’m so grateful. I can never thank Him enough. And that’s what Hakadosh Baruch Hu is waiting for. Live your own life of righteousness and you’re going to see reward.
TAPE # E-197