Should a woman stay with her husband no matter what?
Yes! If he works. He has to work. If he doesn’t work, it’s a very big problem. He has to work to make a living. It’s his duty to work. As it says openly in the kesubah, “אנא אפלח – I’m going to work and support you.” That’s his job to do. He has to be a shomer mitzvos too.
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But should a woman have to suffer from a husband who’s a boor?
Once you’re married, you have to make the best of it. Maybe you’re the one who is to blame more than your husband. Whatever it is, look before you leap. Once you leapt, then stay where you are. And live your whole life satisfactorily. You get s’char; you’ll get reward.
The idea of always being dissatisfied is a tragedy; the world today is in motion, in disturbance, and so many divorces are wrong. Every divorce is a tragedy; it’s a Churban Bais Hamikdosh to ruin a Jewish home.
And so no matter whom you marry, as long as he’s a shomer mitzvos and he’s working to support the family, then you should make it your business to be loyal to him and stay together. You’ll marry off your grandchildren together; you’ll have nachas. Don’t make any fuss; and don’t say, “I want to leave him” or “I should have had a better husband,” or “a more affectionate husband,” or “a bigger lamdan;” don’t look for faults in him. The one you married, that’s the one you should stay with.
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