How does one gain self-esteem?


Oy! Who said you have to gain self-esteem? It’s a foolishness. The psychologists and the therapists are dreyen a kop. It’s a waste of money to go to them – unless it’s a frum Jew. He needs the parnasah, so you want to help him out; give him parnasah

How do you gain self-esteem? Who needs self-esteem?! On the contrary, get rid of self-esteem. Say, “I’m nothing, I’m a nobody. I have to work hard to become a somebody!” Let’s say you learned half of shas already; say, “I’m a nobody. I don’t want any self-esteem, I have to know the whole shas; half a shas is nothing yet.” Give up your self-esteem. 

All these things you have to know are phrases which come from the outside world and we are slaves to our environment. We listen to the talk of the world and we believe that psychologists have a Torah that we didn’t know before. The Torah of the character is found in the seforim, in our mussar seforim and the gemara. If you look carefully you’ll find all the psychology that’s true, it’s there already. What’s not there, you know is not true. It’s the imagination of two apikorsim; one of them was named Freud; Sigmund Freud was a oisvurf. The other was Carl Jung. Two people. And what they said is worthless. 

You might say how do I know it? I know all about it. What I tell you, I know what I’m talking about. 

All true psychology is found in our seforim. The gedolei Yisroel have practiced it in all generations. My rebbes in Slabodka were tremendous chachmei hanefesh. Tremendous chachmei hanefesh! They studied character; they knew people from the way they smiled, the way they talked. They were experienced; they dealt with hundreds hundreds of bochurim for many years, and they learned all the seforim and thought into the things. They had the true chochmas hanefesh. And therefore, if you want to know about the truth of the knowledge of character, don’t go to the umos ha’olam. It’s found in our own Torah more than any place else

TAPE # E-182

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