Should a woman have to suffer from a husband who’s a boor?
Once you’re married, you have to make the best of it. Look, maybe you’re the one who is to blame more than your husband. Whatever it is, you look before you leap but once you leaped, then stay where you are. And live your whole life satisfactorily. You’ll get schar, you get reward for that.
This idea of being dissatisfied always, of always wanting something else is a tragedy. The world today is in motion, in disturbance, and there are so many divorces. Every divorce is a tragedy; it’s a Churban Bais Hamikdosh to ruin a Jewish home. And therefore, no matter whom you marry, as long as he’s a shomer mitzvos and he’s working to support the family, then you should make it your business to be loyal to him and stay together. You’ll marry off your grandchildren together and you’ll have nachas.
Don’t make any fuss; don’t say, “I want to leave him” or “I should have had a better husband,” or “a more affectionate husband,” or “a bigger lamdan.” Forget about it. Don’t look for faults in him. The one you married, that’s the one you should stay with.
So you’re saying a woman stay with her husband no matter what?
Yes! If he works. He has to work. If he doesn’t work, it’s a very big problem. He has to work to make a living. It’s his duty to work. It says openly in the kesubah, אנא אפלח – “I’m going to work and support you.” That’s his job to do. And he has to be a shomer mitzvos too.
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