Rav Avigdor Miller on Summer Separations

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Q:
Should a husband and wife separate in order to go to the country in the summer?


A:
A husband and wife should never separate. That’s the purpose of having a wife and having a husband. והיו לבשר אחד. “And they will become one flesh” (B’reishis 2:24). You don’t separate from your hands or from your feet. You have to realize that it’s one personality. It’s not just a team, it’s a personality. They must always be together.

Now, it doesn’t mean that when he goes to the synagogue that she has to be in the background. Or that when she’s going, let’s say, to the sewing club, that he should hang around and look on, no. Each has his or her separate interests, but in general, they’re together.

Sometimes, he has to go away on a trip for work, he can’t take her along, it can’t be helped. A woman, however, to go off on a pleasure trip someplace without her husband, that’s not to be recommended at all. Unless she has to go for certain business that the husband cannot go along. Let’s say, she has to go for some purpose, she can’t remain behind. And he has to remain here because of his business, that’s something else. But just for pleasure to separate, that’s against the principles on which marriage is founded.

TAPE # 508