Rav Avigdor Miller on the Poor Apikores

Should we love irreligious Jews? 

The answer is that a brother means somebody who is אחיך במצוות, he’s “your brother in mitzvos.” If he’s your brother in accepting the obligation of Torah, then he’s a brother. If he doesn’t, then he’s not your brother. That’s what the gemara says. And therefore you’re absolved from the duty of loving him.

There’s only one loophole in that. Sometimes it’s not his fault. He’s ignorant, he’s a תינוק שנשבה לבין העכום, he’s a child kidnapped among gentiles and he doesn’t know anything. However, that’s a question in halacha. Some say that if he’s a תינוק שנשבה לבין העכום so it’s not his fault, and therefore, all the privileges we should give him. It doesn’t mean you make him the rosh yeshiva, but you should have to love him too.

But Rabbi Chaim Brisker said “nebach an apikores iz oich an apikores.” Anybody who is a disbeliever, even though it’s not his fault, nebach, means it’s a pity on him; it’s a nebach on him but he’s still an apikores. And therefore he’s outside of the pale of our affections. So that’s what they say; that since he’s not a believer, since he doesn’t accept the עול תורה – there are those who don’t believe in matan Torah min hashamayim, and many of them don’t believe even in a Borei – so we can’t include them in אחיך. They’re not counted as our brothers.
TAPE # 528