If a Jew chalilah marries a gentile, how do we react to such a person?
We react is as if the person doesn’t exist; we have nothing to do with that person at all. If you pass him on the street, he’s a zombie, he’s a ghost, he’s a dead man. You don’t see him. And you don’t see his mother and his father either. If his mother and father maintain relations with him; if he takes his shikseh and visits his parents and they let him in the house then you forget about his parents too. You don’t even know them. Anybody who harbors these people, anybody who has personal relations with them, you have nothing to do with them. That always was the system of the Jews and it should remain the system forever.
A woman once told me, a pious woman, that her mother lives with a goy. Somewhere in the south they live. So I said, “Then you don’t have any mother.” She gasped on the telephone. She was silent. I said, “That’s it. You don’t have any mother.” A mother who lives with a goy is not your mother. You should never call her or write her or even recognize that she’s alive.
A man told me his father ran away with a gentile woman. So forget about him. He’s not your father. You never knew him. That’s our reaction to them. And there shouldn’t be any weakness in this. You choose Hakodosh Boruch Hu or you choose the other one.
TAPE #135 (August 1976)