How should a husband encourage his wife to change her bad middos?
First, he should change his middos. That’s the first thing. You should know that in most cases he’s the one who has the bad middos. In most cases that is the truth. He has bad middos. Otherwise he would see that his wife is pretty good. She’s really pretty good.
Look, every wife is a little wild, you know. Women are a little wild. And every man is a little meshugah. Men are meshugah. So men and women both have faults. And therefore, don’t concentrate on her faults. Concentrate on your faults.
I guarantee you that if the husband works on himself and becomes a man of better character, then automatically she’ll be better too. Automatically.
TAPE # E-183 (April 1999)