You said tonight that a wife and children are only transitory figures in our lives and that Hashem is the only true friend we have –
I knew that would get a reaction.
So if that’s a true, why are our dealings with others so important?
Now if you were listening, and I’m sure you were, you’ll remember that I mentioned that you have duties towards these figures. All I said was that you shouldn’t feel that your close relatives are your security and that they’re your company forever. A time comes when a man has to say farewell to everybody. Either he says farewell to them or they say farewell to him.
But as long as they’re together, it’s his duty to fulfill his obligations to them to the best of his ability. He has to fulfill the will of Hakodosh Boruch Hu towards them. He can’t say, “This poor man is only here today. In a few minutes, he’ll be on his way, therefore I can ignore him.” No; the reason he came here at this minute is that you should take care of him. And therefore, you can’t say, “My father and my mother are only transitory figures, so I’ll ignore them.” Nothing doing! Nothing doing! You have to discharge your obligations fully. I mentioned that before; I said clearly that you must discharge your obligations fully, only that you shouldn’t lose sight of Hakodosh Boruch Hu.
Some people, many people are like that, they find all their happiness in the company of other people; like some reform Rabbis and conservative Rabbis and I’m afraid modern orthodox Rabbis too, they tell their congregations when they come together, they say, “It’s togetherness that counts.” That’s a word that they all like; achdus, togetherness. So they’re sitting together, the ladies and the men, and they’re munching, they’re eating. There’s a church supper, a synagogue supper. And they’re enjoying themselves. Let’s say in a community, a rural community, and they’re all together and the Rabbi speaks to them: “It’s togetherness that counts.”
But they’re forgetting that you have to be together with Hakodosh Boruch Hu! That’s what counts! And the fact that they’re leaning one on each other, איש לרעהו יעזרו – so it means ובערו שניהם יחדיו – a time will come they’ll all burn together. They’ll be together in Gehenom too. It won’t help. It’s not going to help. ואין מכבה – no friend will be able to help you put out the fire.
And that’s what it says, אח לא פדה יפדה איש – a brother won’t redeem another brother. The fact you have a brother won’t help. When the time comes, a man goes before the judgment of Hakodosh Boruch Hu all alone. And that’s all we are, we’re strangers all alone in this world and Hakodosh Boruch Hu is our only friend. He’s our friend. That’s what it says רעך ורע אביך אל תעזב – don’t forsake your friend and the friend of your father. That’s אלוקינו ואלקי אבותינו. That’s our old friend. He is tried and trusted. That’s the only one we have.
Don’t make any mistake. Even to trust in your mother! Now a mother is a very good friend. She’ll do almost anything for you, but it’s almost. You’d be surprised what could happen sometimes. You know sometimes a mother is the one that ruins the child. Here’s a mother that said, “My daughter is not so favored among her friends. So if this gentile boy hangs around the house, it wouldn’t be a bad idea. At least somebody would marry her.” So now we see that a mother is a very worst friend there is. There couldn’t be a worse enemy than such a mother. And therefore, there’s only one true friend and that’s Hakodosh Boruch Hu.
Now don’t tell that to your mother. Tell your mother, “You’re my best friend” – when your father’s not listening. When your mother’s not listening, tell your father, “You’re my best friend.” And there’s no question about it that they are, but Hakodosh Boruch Hu is the one that made them your best friend, so therefore He is the real friend.
TAPE # 136