Q:We believe that shidduchim are made in heaven; so what’s the principle in the gemara that you have to hurry up to find something good because שמא יקדמנו אחר – maybe somebody else might snatch the opportunity away from you (Mo’ed Katan 18b). If it’s ordained, it’s ordained; what’s there to worry about?
Tag: Marriage
Rav Avigdor Miller on The Most Important Guest at the Wedding
Q: What should a person think when he’s under the chuppah?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Complaints Against Your Spouse
Q:What should a wife do if she has some complaints against her husband?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Suspecting Hashem of Wrongdoing
Q: I just found out that a former classmate of mine passed away. He was only 21 years old. What should my thoughts be when I begin to question why Hashem would do such a thing?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Shana Rishona
Q:How much extra time is a newly married man supposed to spend in the company of his wife?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Chochmas Nashim Bonsah Beisah
Q: Should a husband spend extra money in order to make his house more beautiful if that will make his wife happier?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Calling People Fools
Q: Sometimes we see in the gemara that the chachomim in Eretz Yisroel would refer to the Jews in Bavel as בבלאי טפשאי, those foolish Babylonians. How does that fit together with the idea that you’re not supposed to ridicule people?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Friends, Cronies and Business Partners
Q: It was said here recently that the Chofetz Chaim didn’t have any cronies, any friends, with whom he spent a lot of time. But didn’t you tell us that Chazal teach קנה לך חבר, that a friend is so important that you should even be willing to pay for a good friend?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Fighting With Your Spouse
Q: When can one expect the first argument after getting married?
Rav Avigdor Miller on Making a Parnasah
Q:The Rav said that he can’t justify people not getting married. But couldn’t it be that there are some people who are just not meant to get married? Like some people who are poor all their lives and wouldn’t be able to support a family anyways?